Is He the One?

The Interview

Step 1:

HOW: Questionaire by phone (preferably) or In-person

WHY: Confirm life compatibility

This is the YELLOW zone. Neutral.

First name

Last name (If possible)

age

Where did you grow up?

Where do you live at?

Phone

Works for/at // Company name

Position

Short answer

Long answer

His photo from online

He comes across as a joyful person over the phone or per first meet.

He seems generous and/or financially giving.

He was a gentleman in how he treated me from beginning to end of conversation or first date.

He was respectful of my personal space and didnt try to get too close too soon.

He felt easy going (in the flow of conversation or in micro-tasks during our first date).

The Vetting

Step 2:

HOW: Be in situations of testing.

WHY: Confirm their character, emotionla intelligence and maturity

RULES:

- Don't tell ANYONE about them. THEY ARE NOT OFFICIAL.

- You're not yet married, so behave as a SINGLE PERSON.

- This is also the romantic stage. No more than 2 dates per week for longer than 3 1/2 hours.

(time to process and make him miss you is a must).

Dating stage is for us to see how we deal with boundaries or rejections

i dont allow man in my home in the dating stages.

safety is not about fear is about discernment and this is something i strong believe and live my life by.

I am not looking for perfection, but i am looking for regulationa nd continuity. Some people think they can be what they feel like being and that only last a moment. I dont want to catch feelings for the "representative".

First date: Just dinner and conversation.

What brought you into dating + What do you want out of it?

Preferred places in town / Foods / Trips / professional life.